Or would it make things less steamy, in that the lack of affection becomes a type of ‘habit’?

Really? I only counted 2. Men and Women. If you are counting gay men as something seperate from normal men, then maybe you are the one inflicting a stereotype.

Alex, you made a good point about the public displays of affection. I have a gay friend and when him and his partner are together in public, they do not even hold hands, share a whisper…. nothing. Not even when they are at my house where it is a safe place.

I would imagine that if you could not share any type of affection, not even a hug in public, then when you had the chance to, in your own home, to show/share that affection, it would be pretty steamy.

As to your question Mark, I believe that gay men have sex more often than hetero couples for two reasons.

One, the male sex drive is often very intense. Therefore, with two men put together in a relationship, it follows that sex would be a central part of that.

Two, society has deemed most shows of affection between gay men as unacceptable. Therefore, in more situations, holding hands or hugging or kissing become “verboten” so that a gay male couple is left with sex as their only physical outlet to show affection.

For the lesbians, I have no idea. I only have this thought: Why do we have a word for female homosexuality, “lesbianism,” but not for male homosexuality? All the words that we use for male homosexuality cover both genders. I think it’s evidence of a culture that, regrettably, refuses to integrate the concept of male homosexuality.

Come to think of it, it’s amazing married men get some even once a year.